Title: The Threesome Handbook: Make the Most of Your Favorite Fantasy – the Ultimate Guide for Tri-Curious Singles and Couples
Author: Victoria Vantoch
Genre: Non-Fiction / Relationships / Polyamory / Sexuality
A step-by-step guide to realizing the American dream, The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to Sleeping with Three is the first book to give tri-curious men and women the inside scoop on threesomes. Having finally slipped into the mainstream – on MTV, Boston Legal, Entourage, magazines, movies, and just about every respectable blog – sexuality historian and threesome dabbler Victoria Vantoch offers practical and humorous advice on our most popular fantasy.
Drawing on personal experience, historical research, advice from pros, and hundreds of interviews with veteran and novice threesome adventurers, Vantoch covers the gamut of possibilities in threesome sex and triad relationships. The Threesome Handbook is the essential road map for couples and singles to explore new territory or just spice things up in the sack.
The Threesome Handbook is a practical, informative, well-structured manual, written in a very casual, engaging and entertaining style.
Ms. Vantoch covers her subject adequately, using her personal experiences and interviewing more than a hundred “threesome veterans, dabblers, and dreamers.”
The book is very extensive: it clearly presents threesomes from many aspects:
• Communication activities.
• Hunting and dating tips, three-way seduction exercises.
Couples on the prowl need teamwork. Generally, it works best when the man knows how to play it cool and give the woman space to connect. Let the woman develop chemistry. Basically, the lifestyle motto can be summed up: “Men behave, women go wild”.
• The pros and cons of threesome flings or emotional triad relationships: it gives an overview of different threesome relationship models.
• Moral questions, managing jealousy, rivalry and possessiveness.
• Tips on living an unconventional lifestyle in the long run, and the secrets of a blissful triad relationship.
• Sexual positions, techniques, and safe sex for three.
• And advices for coming out about your trisexuality:
Test the waters first. Start by mentioning an article you read about open relationships or threesomes. If your friend shouts, “Those motherfuckers are going to hell!” reconsider outing yourself.
The Threesome Handbook provides not only information and advice, but also clear, moral arguments on the subject. I especially enjoyed discovering how much I agree with the author: she confirmed my thoughts and beliefs, putting them into coherent sentences.
Despite its complex content, it is a very light read, peppered with laugh-out-loud humor: I especially enjoyed the Necessary Seduction Accouterment tips after the dating tips, and the Vocabulary Builders.
The truth is: love ain’t easy. And, love is even trickier to follow when it surfaces in unconventional ways. Serious relationships require work and when you’re in one that your parents scowl at and mainstream society shuns, it’s easier to quit when there’s a bump along the way. Diving into a threesome relationship is like getting a PhD in love.
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